What Did I Do? | Crosstraining 5.8.14

James 4:1-3 I was on the track team when I was in middle and high school, which was fun for me, because I threw shot put and discus instead of having to run with the other members of the track team. I immediately became pretty good and the two throwing events, but, one year, about half way through the season, I began to struggle some. The coach asked me if I had been throwing in practice. I had been. So, he decided to watch me practice, and he noticed I had developed some bad habits in practice that was causing me to struggle. It wasn’t the amount of practice that was hurting me, it was how I was practicing that was causing me to struggle. Some people say that married couples should never argue, but that’s simply not true. Couples argue, some maybe more than they should, but everyone fights at some point or another. So, it’s not necessarily that we argue in our marriages that’s the problems, it’s the things we do when we fight that can be detrimental to our marriage. We need to learn the proper way to fight in order to have productive arguments that strengthen our relationships instead of hurting them. We need to commit to not call each other names, never raise our voice needlessly, never get historical and bring up old issues, never tell someone that they never or always do certain things, and we never EVER should threaten divorce. If we stick to these rules, it will go a long way to ensure we are fighting fair and productively in our marriage. Which of these things are you guilty of? Commit to removing them from your repertoire in your arguments today.]]>